Your Lack of Focus Is Your Focus
For some people, attempting to sit down, open up a word document and pour their thoughts onto the page would be their worst nightmare. It would take them weeks to think of an idea, days to get to writing and maybe a month later they be able to hit publish.
It would be uncomfortable, effortful and a struggle from start to finish. In other words, for some people, writing encourages a lack of focus.
“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” — George Lucas
For me, writing an article is bliss. It’s fulfilling. It’s what I love to do. So whilst on the odd occasion, it’s a struggle, most days the emotions surrounding my writing are good ones. In other words, writing is my focus. But if you asked me to sit and draw a picture or worst still, get painting it would be anything but positive.
One person’s procrastination is another person’s flow.
On some level, we’re all searching for something. Conventional wisdom has told you to focus on finding a passion and then you’ll never work a day in your life. You’re brought back down to Earth when the first job you land or the first thing you try doesn’t work out quite how you expected and you give up hope. I’ve been there, it’s exactly what I did. It took me years to find my passion and that was largely due to the fact that I was chasing the things I thought I should love, not the things I was actually focused on.
If you want to find what your passion is, looking at where you are lacking focus.
Don’t Chase a Focus You Don’t Have
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”― Oscar Wilde
There is a mould that you're trying to fit into it. It’s the mould that is acceptable, that society likes, that makes sense. That could be joining the running club at work because you feel like that’s what everyone else is doing. It could be buying fancy clothes because you think they’ll impress people. It could be buying expensive coffee even though you hate the taste.
“Don’t you ever let a soul in the world tell you that you can’t be exactly who you are.”― Lady Gaga
All of those things are the ‘accepted things’ but none of them is bringing you joy. I did this for years and got nowhere fast. I was searching everywhere to find my passion and in the time that I wasn’t spent doing that, I’d read my favourite books and write my thoughts down. It was only when I stopped asking myself on a daily basis what my passion was that I realised it was staring me in the face all along.
Figure out what bores you, work out the things that you do not care for and put it all into a charity bag so you can focus on the things you love.
Don’t Beat Yourself If Your Focus Isn’t Typical
“The tip of the neighbour’s iceberg often looks very nice.”― Roy A. Ngansop
Social norms and the world around you make you conform to things mindlessly. The world has a certain way of doing things and there is a general framework for life that we all know. That doesn’t have to be your framework though. It can be and that’s fine. It can not be and that’s also fine.
Your focus can be conventional or it can be completely unconventional. The point is to not worry about the way the world is and what everyone else is doing. Your focus might be bees or plants or pillows. Just because the majority of the world isn’t focused on those things, doesn’t mean you can’t be.
You will already have a focus. You might not know it yet but you most likely do. Here are some tell-tail signs that you have a focus that you’ve yet to realise yet:
- When on social media you are drawn to the same type of accounts. That could be homeware, design, wellbeing. It doesn't matter what. Can you categorise the stuff you look at on social media, what’s the common trend?
- Once you’ve done all the jobs for the day you can’t wait to get back home and do that thing you’ve been looking forward to all day. In fact, it’s probably the motivation to get through your to-do list.
- When you’re driving your mind wanders to this thing. Just the details of how to work a certain thing, what you want to learn next or something you are excited about.
Your focus might not be conventional but that doesn't matter. As long as it’s yours then who cares?
Lean Into Your Focus Without Any Expectations
So instead of searching for something you should be doing, start looking at where your focus is. Your lack of focus will tell you where your focus should be. Your lack of focus is your focus.
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.”― Robert F. Kennedy
Lean in. Put all your eggs in the basket that you care most about. If you want to find a real passion you need to lean in and lean in hard.
Once you’ve found your focus, lean all the way in.
In a world of abundance comes incredible noise. Noise about what you should and shouldn’t be doing, how you should be living your life and what’s an acceptable passion.
Close your eyes and ears and lean into your lack of focus. If you scroll past it without a care in the world, cross it off your list.
- Don’t care for books? Cool. Cross it off your list.
- Couldn’t care less about writing? Cool, don’t think about it.
Lean into where you find yourself naturally drifting into.